The Life Cycle of the Nice Guy - A Tale of Hopelessness?

In my last post, the conclusion was reached that being a nice guy was tantamount to choosing a life of mundane insanity.

However, the question must be asked: What motivates the nice guy?

Reason One: breadcrumbs.

Those nice guys who choose to remain that way after that critical age of 21 do so because they believe that they can romantically subsist on traces of girl-attention. They believe that all the thank-yous and the occasional hugs are predecessors to what can and will happen in the future. They truly think that the phone calls they get for favours from girls are mini-snapshots into what an actual relationship is like.

I won't kid you. I spent some time believing that actual relationships would consist of a nice guy being nice to a girl and she being nice to him in return.

But I wised up and soon moved on to the next reason that motivates nice guys...

Reason Two: bitterness and spite.

So eventually the nice guy realizes that his efforts aren't going to get him a girlfriend, and realizes that the girls he likes enter relationships with The Jerk only a month after telling the nice guy that they aren't ready for a relationship. He decides that he'll be a nice guy for spite.

I'll show them, he obsesses. One day she'll come my way, and I'll reject her! Revenge will be sweet!

These thoughts consume him, become his heart and soul, his reason for being. He no longer desires to be a nice guy, but he carries on out of habit. Though he knows he's no longer actually a nice guy, he still appears that way to the outside world. His acts of kindness, though hollow, still manage to get him the aforementioned breadcrumbs so he's able to cope.

Unfortunately, as many nice guys have realized, living like this is really hard work (Personally this phase only lasted a few months) At this point, they go over to being a Jerk or they continue on, but with a new reason...

Reason Three: blind hope.

This is where I am personally. As I see it, even if it is a one-in-a-million chance, eventually I'll meet a girl who isn't repulsed by the fact that I respect women and would want to treat my special lady as a precious gift. I hope that she will not be bored by the fact that I want what is best for her, and that I believe that part of what's best for her is for her to have a caring boyfriend. With this hope, I move forward.

Hopefully, I'll never have to see the next reason for the motivation of nice guys...

Reason Four: ??? (Hopefully I will never find out)

(Next Topic: The Victorious Jerks and their Perfect Game Plan. - On Tuesday 28th)